Whats Next?

Its now been just over 3 months that Jeff and I have been back together.  Those months have flown by quickly and a lot has happened in that time.  Good and bad news has happened, as well as joys and struggles with the children.  Altogether, though, I am glad I made the decision I did, to return home.
It has been almost two weeks since we dialogued, and that wasn't even at home,  It has been even longer for doing that at home.  I miss it, I really do.  I noticed we are starting to fall into the old slump of being on computers in the evening, even with TV or a movie on.  The intimacy is fading again, and that saddens me.  I am so confused!  I love when he snuggles by me or comes up behind me for a hug or kiss, and dip kisses are great!  Even just holding hands, but that has been going away sadly.  I touch him when I can, which is frequent, but with him relaxing on the intimate spontaneous touching when he's home, it is worrying me that he is falling into the hole we were in before with our intimacy.  I love that he calls on his lunch break, but I am missing his touch after I welcome him home from a long day at work.  Most nights lately, after I give him a good kiss and hug when he gets home, that is it for any touching, until we go to bed.  I really don't want that to continue. 
I am also missing having other woman, locally, to talk to and do things with.  Before we were seperated, I homeschooled the youngest.  Now, however, he is in public school.  I don't have any little children anymore, and not homeschooling now leaves me out of a lot of circles that I was part of at one time.  I know its part of getting older, lol, but some days I just go nuts sitting around here with no one to really visit with that can understand what we sent through and what is still going on.  Other women I can talk to over coffee face to face, that have been where I am now and can teach me more.  Like the women in Titus.  I so desire that but alas I haven't found it yet.  I just pray that God will fill that desire when He so desires.  It is so hard to be patient.I am part of a few email groups, but that just isn't the same as talking to someone face to face.  I don't desire many to talk to, but a few good ones. IDK, just rambling really,I guess.  I have always been so busy in the past with either working all the time, or always having at least one child with me almost 24/7 that I sometimes just don't know what to do with the quiet time I do have now, inbetween doing stuff around the house.  Some would say to get a job, but if I do, as I learned from past history, things at home will get neglected, and I can't let that happen again.  I know I am not perfect, but this is one thing I desire is to have an at least semi clean/neat/organized house, and now I have an abundance of time to do it in, but it is like too much time too.  Again, just babbling, can you tell I don't get to talk to anyone much?
There is so much I would love to do, but it either requires for money or even just for Jeff to be near me.

Lord, hear my cries and prayers, and help others who are also dear to my heart, who are going through struggles we have already passed through, be able to lean on you and know that you are still on the throne and that you see whats happening in their lives. In Your Loving Name, Amen.